The Juggling of Pressures & Committments

7 January, 2008

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I was just in the middle of finishing an article which contains a discussion on how so many women are doing a crazy juggling act with their lives (running a house, bringing up kids, keeping social, working and achieving, trying to stay 'balanced' by exercising, yoging, meditating. We are indeed 21st Century women, with pressures and commitments our ancestors' never had) when I realised that at that very moment, I was experiencing first hand exactly what I was writing about!

Being a woman engrossed in her career, and, equally valuing her home and social life, I am used to trying to balance life - we all are. Having enjoyed a leisurely Christmas break at home with my partner, I've enjoyed the ease of day to day living - with no immediate pressures.

However, today was a different story; having invited a new pet, a kitten, into our household recently and enjoying the pleasures a pet can bring, things took a turn for the worst when my partner's leg became infected as a result of a kitten scratch. Things escalated to an overnight stay in the hospital, intravenous antibiotics and crutches! I still can't quite believe it the extent of it. She, the aforementioned kitty-kat (cute as ever) is, of course, completely oblivious to all the trouble she's caused.

I on the other hand, am not. Having a temporarily invalid partner, two looming work deadlines and a very demanding kitten (who has understandably been ousted from which ever room Partner is in; foot elevated, antibiotics and vitamin supplements lined up for the taking) I understood for the first time what it was like to have responsibility for EVERYTHING in the house; working hard at career whilst looking after two babies (OK, so in my case a fur-baby and an invalid partner, but you know what I mean).

It felt like hard work, and it felt like it wasn't going to end. I realised what it must be like for working parents, single parents or parents who manage the household solely. Who will take the rubbish out? Clean the litter tray? Wash up after the three meals I've prepared? Who will make me a cup of tea? When will I get time to relax before bed and having to repeat the process tomorrow?

It reminds me of a quote I often get in my inbox from an inspirational self-help website I like, Abraham-Hicks, which I quote directly here:

"All is well, and you will never get it done. Life is supposed to be fun. No one is taking score of any kind, and if you will stop taking score so much, you will feel a whole lot better -- and as you feel a whole lot better, more of the things that you want right now will flow to you. You will never be in a place where all of the things that you are wanting will be satisfied right now, or then you could be complete -- and you never can be. This incomplete place that you stand is the best place that you could be. You are right on track, right on schedule. Everything is unfolding perfectly. All is really well. Have fun. Have fun. Have fun! "

Excerpted from a workshop in Tucson, AZ on Tuesday, February 20th, 2001

Perhaps a good reminder for all of us women who are trying to get it all done in one day.

Look after yourselves more.

Charlotte.

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